Moving Back Home Doesn't Mean You've Failed In Life - Here's Why


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“When I was in high school,” the essayist Anne P. Beatty ,“ambition meant two things: escaping my hometown and becoming a writer”.

The idea that young people's futures are best served by moving away from small towns and rural areas to big cities is deeply ingrained. The sociologist David Farrugia has described this as the the“”. However questions remain about whether moving away is always that easy and whether it is always the best way to achieve what you want in life.

I have how young people in rural communities in Scotland think about their future prospects. I have found that whether leaving your hometown is a good idea depends on both your aspirations and the resources you have.


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How we make decisions about our lives

French sociologist identifies how our resources (which he terms“capitals”) provide us with certain opportunities. In his idea of“habitus”, meanwhile, he considers how our social environment influences the way that we see the world and the aspirations we develop. These ideas have been used to develop a theory of career development called“”.

Habitus helps to explain how the places we grow up in the kinds of futures we envisage: what we aspire to, not just in terms of employment, but also . Bourdieu's wider concept of capital, meanwhile, can be used to explain from their home towns dependent on their financial resources, personal networks and previous experiences of mobility. This suggests that how we decide where to live is not always a simple choice. Our ideas emerge from our social context, and are shaped by the resources we have.

Research suggests that moving away from rural areas is particularly connected to entry to higher education. Canadian education scholar Michael Corbett has shown how doing well at school is likely to see you your community. In places like the UK where going away to university is a longstanding young people may also have the resources they need to move, in the form of grants or loans for study, among others. Here we can see how aspirations and resources combined provide opportunities for leaving.


Young people who do well at school often 'learn to leave' for further opportunities.

Notably, however research with young people from rural areas has shown that it is not the opportunities in themselves that explain why many leave their communities. Rather, moving away self-development, growing confidence and independence. This distinction is important. It shows how moving away might be something you choose to do for reasons other than simply accessing what might be considered the“best” opportunities.

Staying and returning

Despite the appeal of leaving, not all young people are able to, or want to move away from their hometowns. In fact, the evidence suggests that young people are increasingly staying at home or are after they graduate.

that in some cases choices to stay or return are positive choices, relating primarily to relationships and careers. Some young people choose to come back to be near family or to live with a partner, .

Returning home can also be a positive experience in relation to work. Graduates – especially in professions such as – may find that their rural hometowns offer employment opportunities in line with their career aspirations.

Working in smaller places may also appeal to those who want to undertake work to the community. Further, even though salaries may be higher in some large cities, housing costs can make more affordable.

Moving back home is not necessarily a positive thing though. Sometimes returning home is prompted by . Decision to return might also be prompted by , for example relationship break-ups or elderly relatives becoming ill. In , these experiences of return are especially challenging if young people perceive limited opportunities in their chosen careers in their hometown.

Previous research has shown that the“” often influences how young people think about where to go and what to do. This runs the risk that returning (or staying) at home be . However, on the contrary, staying or returning to a small community can be a positive choice. Besides, choices to stay or leave are often driven by circumstances beyond our control.

As life circumstances change, decisions to move or stay . What you decide at one point in time will not necessarily shape your future forever.


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