When Did Mom Become the Enemy Does She Deserve It
Date
1/18/2015 6:38:02 AM
When Dr. Nancy Perry was told by her adult child that she had failed in some ways as a mother she was stunned. After spending a lifetime practicing psychology and helping people deal with difficult issues she thought she understood family dynamics but soon realized "mother bashing" was an area essentially unexplored. That was the moment in which she decided to write her new bestseller Mother Bashing: Does She Deserve It?
Dr. Perry says “I have experienced mother blame in my own life as well as identified problems I had with my own mother. My own emotional pain launched me on the odyssey of writing this book. It drew me to unexpected places. I explored the possible causes of mother blame and looked for ways to help improve relationships within families and help parents become more aware of factors in society that can be harmful to children. Many clinical cases are included in this book to illustrate some of the concepts presented here. The facts are true but the identities and names of the people involved have been changed to protect their privacy.”
The book covers the causes of mother bashing and relationships between mothers and their adult children. Most mothers are women but fathers as well as anyone else may also fulfill the role of “mother”. The book includes theoretical ideas but is filled with examples from actual clinical cases that help clarify meanings. It is a book for everyone who has a mother or is a mother. It is for both men and women. Teenagers may find it a helpful tool to better understand themselves and their parents.
The first part of this book defines mother bashing explains what a good enough mother really is explores some of the reasons society has blamed mothers and whether that blame was warranted as well as addressing the normal healthy aspects of mother blame as related to normal differentiation and individuation.
The second part of this book Focuses on exploring the issues in our world today that can cause harm to developing children as well as factors that may cause conflict between mothers and children. Single Parenting Child abuse Social change and the Technological Revolution can harm children. In her work as a psychologist she has sadly witnessed many of these damages.
The last part of the book recognizes the profound need for mothering at many levels beginning with our own children and expanding this to the world. The book is designed to help you assimilate what you learned about mother blame as well as what you may have learned about yourself. Some mothers may decide they made some mistakes and feel some guilt others may feel angry at either themselves or their children. Still others may realize they understand their mother or child better and feel uplifted or neutral. The last chapter gives concrete suggestions to help you deal with anger and learn to forgive if you choose.
One reader said “This book is not written to vindicate mothers or to blame them. Blame already exists. It is not a book about how to be a good parent but it provides good parenting advice. It is a book that sheds a different light on mothering and parenting today and provides information about how to cope with discord in cross generational relationships. It challenges mothers fathers and their children to evaluate themselves as they read.”
The official release of the book will take place on January 21 2015 at http://motherbashing.homestead.com